Tag: Catholic Dating

Catholic Dating: The issue of chastity

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Last week I wrote two posts on the subject of dating outside of the Catholic Faith. In an effort to keep those posts focussed, I had decided to address the specific scenario of a couple composed of two Christians, a Catholic and a Protestant.

However, as I was writing, there was one issue related to dating outside of the Catholic Faith that I particularly wanted to raise, but since it didn’t naturally fall within the parameters which I had set for those articles, I decided to omit it. In today’s brief post, therefore, I would like to return to this issue.

In the previous post, I presented three main areas for potential conflict between a Catholic and a Protestant:

1. The Wedding

2. Religious Practice

3. Children and family life

In addition to these three areas, when a Catholic dates a non-Christian (as opposed to a non-Catholic), there is another area of potential conflict which is particularly worth considering:

4. Chastity
Is your potential spouse committed to chastity? Will this person do everything possible to help you remain chaste?

It is worth pointing out that potential contention over the subject of chastity is certainly not limited to the situation where a Catholic is dating a non-Christian. It is possible that conflict may arise when dating a Protestant or, as I highlighted in my previous post, even a fellow Catholic. There is no guarantee that someone who identifies as “Catholic” actually will believe or practise the entirety of the Catholic Faith.

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TEA: Is there life before marriage? (Dodge City)

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So this past weekend I was at the Southern Kansas Young Adult Conference (SKYAC). I gave a few talks on the retreat, which I’ll post here over the next couple of days.

The afternoon opened up with a talk on relationships from the magnificently-bearded Dave DiNuzzo (“Relationship Martyrdom vs Relationship Suicide”).

Following Dave’s presentation, the married couples on the retreat had their own breakout talk, but all those without wedding rings on their fingers were sent to another room to listen to…me! In my talk, I tried to answer the all-important question…is there life before marriage?

“Is there life before marriage?” (Download)

Restless Heart: 8 – “The ‘Dump Him’ List”

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Nessa is in charge this week! This means, of course, that we’re talking about dating. In this episode, Nessa outlines her “Dump Him” List and I offer a few of my own dating red flags as well…

Episode 8: The “Dump Him” List (Download)

 

— Show Notes —

* The “CIH” mentioned by Nessa at the beginning is The Children of the Immaculate Heart, an organization which serves the survivors of human trafficking.

* If you would like to help feed the homeless in Downtown San Diego, here is the Facebook Page for that group.

* The San Diego C.S. Lewis reading group is The Eagle and Child.

* When we were discussing friendships, I couldn’t remember who it was who said that you’re the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time. I’ve looked it up and it turns out that it was motivational speaker John Rohn.

* We mentioned Sheldon Cooper and Amy Farrah Fowler during our discussion. In case you haven’t come across them before, they are characters on a show called The Big Bang Theory.

* The Conference I said I was going to this weekend is The Catholic Answers Conference.

* If you would like to win a copy of Bobby and Jackie Angel’s new book, all you need to do is follow us on Twitter at @davidandnessa.

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New Catholic Dating Website Launched!

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For the last couple of months, I have been helping beta test a website which is being launched by a friend of mine. Normally, I’m the one writing the code, so it was a lot of fun having an opportunity to find the bugs in someone else’s work!

Although I’ve known people to find their spouse on CatholicMatch.com, I also know of a lot of people who have found the whole online dating experience frustrating. If this is you, you might like to try CatholicChemistry…

Click on the link above and sign up with the promo code “JMJ”, you’ll get a 6-month subscription for free. If you’re not sure how to start the conversation and get a date, you might like to try some of my favourite Catholic pick-up lines. You can thank me in your wedding toast… 😉

The List…

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So several years ago, after my return from Seattle to San Diego, I sat down and thought about what I was looking for in a wife.

Today I get married.

Here’s the list…

  • Compassionate. Endeavours to welcome newcomers. Takes an interest in the lives of others – asks questions. Has a heart that breaks for other people. 
  • Thoughtful. Actively looks for ways to bless others.
  • Servant-hearted. The sort of person who will see something which needs doing and will just get to work. Has initiative.
  • Laughs easily. Doesn’t take herself too seriously.  Can look on the bright side of things.
  • Generous with her time and resources.
  • Knows when it’s time for complaining to come to an end and it’s time to tough it out.
  • Independent. Has own thoughts, ideas and goals.
  • Self-forgetful. Her first thought will not be “How will this affect me?” Doesn’t talk about herself all the time.
  • Supportive and actively encourages others.
  • Passionate about stuff. 
  • Loves music. Would loudly sing along to the car radio and not care if she looked crazy.
  • Has good, solid, stable friendships with other females.
  • Loves books. Would think that a Sunday on the couch reading together would be a day well spent.
  • Gentle in speech. Thinks carefully about how her words come across. Doesn’t swear. Doesn’t gossip.
  • Likes the simple things in life. Doesn’t need lots of make-up, jewellery, expensive dinners or costly entertainment in order to be happy.
  • Up for an adventure or doing something new.
  • A bit of a nerd.

Mission Accomplished.

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