Category: Catholicism

Another guest post by Beverly Nelson…

Finding out your loved one has a terminal diagnosis is one of the most painful, shocking moments you can experience. When making arrangements for your loved one, you need to think of medical care, legal help, and your well-being. It is a difficult and delicate balance, but it is an important one that you can strive towards. Restless Pilgrim has some suggestions for managing your grief, your loved one’s needs, and your personal well-being.

Start With Medical Arrangements

During the final stages of a terminal illness, you have to accept that your loved one is reaching the end of his or her life. Not only do you have to deal with daily care practices, but you have to make end-of-life decisions.

Medical arrangements should be practical first. For example, if your loved one cannot talk, eat or walk, you may need a medical professional or team to provide 24/7 support. Remember that even those who suffer from memory or cognitive problems still experience the same range of emotions they always did. You need to make plans to ease pain and discomfort, along with enhancing his or her quality of life.

In the final stages, your loved one has the option of hospice care. Hospice care can occur in a hospital, care facility, hospice center, or home. Often, people decide to have hospice care in the comfort of their homes. The point of hospice care is to treat a person’s symptoms rather than the disease.

If you do not live near your loved one, you might consider renting a house or apartment during this process. Smaller apartments in the San Diego area start at around $2,400. You might find it to be more cost effective to rent a small unit than to stay in a hotel for weeks or even months during this process.

Consider the Legalities

When it comes to legal matters involved with end-of-life arrangements, you need to make sure your loved one has a living will and power of attorney. According to the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, power of attorney allows a person to choose a trustworthy person to act if he or she cannot. A power of attorney may be financial or medical. If your loved one has a brain injury or other condition that affects mental function, then someone needs to be able to make decisions on his or her behalf.

A living will, on the other hand, provides a guide for doctors and health care providers and peace to family members and loved ones. The living will include whether a person wants to be given life-saving measures or if he or she wants to be on life support. For end-of-life documents, work with an attorney who specializes in estate planning. They can help ensure you have the right paperwork and provide the legal counsel you need.

Prepare for What Happens After

What will you do after your loved one passes? Do you plan to sell his or her belongings? Will you sell the house? When selling the house, you need to prepare the property for the market. If you want to make the most out of the home, it needs to be in the best possible shape.

The more effort you put into the home, the more likely potential buyers will appreciate it. Most people don’t want a home that requires extensive repairs. Have an inspection performed to find out what types of repairs are required. Make sure that you don’t have any cracked pipes, damaged windows, or problems with the roof. Additionally, try to create a clutter-free and neutral environment. Potential buyers need to be able to see themselves in the home.

If you choose to keep the home, you may want to refinance, especially if you believe the home has increased in value over the years. Look online for the best cash out refinance rates if your loved one has large medical bills or other expenses that you would like to pay off with money from the house. There are financial penalties, but you can cash out part of the equity and possibly still lower the monthly mortgage payment, too. 

Don’t Forget Your Emotional Well-Being

Your emotional well-being is important to your overall health. During times of emotional distress, you are more likely to deal with illness. You can find some relief, however, in a variety of coping strategies, including:

• Journaling
• Meditating
• Therapy

You may find it more difficult to focus on the needs of your loved one if you do not prioritize your own.

Coping with a loved one’s terminal illness is a trying time for all individuals involved. Having a plan to deal with the legal, emotional, and medical aspects can help ease some stress. Start by managing your loved one’s medical needs, and then focus on the grief and belongings that will remain. And if you are a spiritual person, reaching out to a higher power could bring you comfort and even reduced anxiety. Restless Pilgrim has resources to help you reach out through prayer. Visit them online to begin your spiritual journey during this difficult time.

Guest post by Beverly Nelson…

Prayer is an integral aspect of the lives of millions of individuals who associate themselves with a religion. It is a way to ask for divine intercession in their lives and establish a relationship with a higher power. However, daily prayer can also benefit an individual’s physical and mental health in the following ways…

Reduces Stress

Chronic stress impacts the cardiovascular, endocrine, musculoskeletal, gastrointestinal, and other body systems, causing them to malfunction. For example, stress increases the body’s production of hormones like cortisol that contribute to inflammation and raise blood sugar levels leading to weight gain. However, prayer lifts the spirit and promotes relaxation, inhibiting the production of stress hormones. 

Maximizes Bodily Functions

Stress-reducing prayer can lower blood pressure for better cardiovascular health and improve the function of the digestive, immune, and other body systems when part of a lifestyle routine that incorporates other healthy habits. For example, the latest guidelines from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services indicate that adults who get 150 to 300 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise have a lower risk for developing chronic illnesses. Those with full-time jobs can incorporate movement into their work day by taking stairs instead of elevators, taking brisk walks during lunch breaks, or periodically stretching throughout the day. Praying while performing any physical movement is an excellent way to compound the health benefits of both activities.

Improves Sleep

Through magnetic image resonance technology, researchers can now determine that prayer activates parts of the brain that play an active role in how individuals self-soothe.  By promoting relaxation, easing restlessness, and quieting distracting thoughts, prayer helps achieve restorative sleep and minimizes the number and duration of sleep interruptions. 

Promotes Self-Control

Impulsivity can lead to a restless mind; therefore, many religions promote practices that improve the ability to focus. For example, prayer steers one’s attention away from unhealthy or devastating behaviors and directs it toward a meaningful and purposeful personal relationship with God. Therefore, many addiction recovery programs throughout the country emphasize the importance of relying upon faith and prayer for maintaining sobriety. For example, they teach The Serenity Prayer to help addicts realize that they cannot eliminate temptation from their lives. Still, they can achieve the power, control, and wisdom to overcome it.

Achieves Forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the heart of all Judeo-Christian traditions because it reflects God’s infinite love for humanity. Prayer is an opportunity for self-reflection and introspection by allowing individuals to share their most intimate thoughts with God and seek and learn forgiveness which impacts physical well-being.

Relieves Depression and Anxiety

Regardless of their social ties, individuals who pray during life’s low points may experience comfort and strength with less depression and anxiety. For example, prayer during challenging times such as the death of a loved one may inspire feelings of attachment despite the loss. 

In addition, studies show that prayer can lift the feelings of dread, hopelessness, and uncertainty under anxiety-inducing circumstances or help individuals recover from trauma.

Alleviates Loneliness

Loneliness impacts various aspects of humanity and is a recurring theme in the Bible and the Quran. Medical professionals link loneliness to many physical and mental health complications. Although praying in communities can bond people together, prayer can help relieve feelings of isolation, reminding people that they are not alone.

Whether prayer involves gratitude, supplication, or confession, it has the power to improve physical and mental health and well-being as part of a daily routine.

Videos and pictures of abortions

I just came across a fantastically useful website, Sunnah.com, which I can use to look up passages of the Hadith and bookmark them:

This means it’s possible to create a crib sheet of the relevant passages of the Hadith, such as in Sahih al-Bukhari #5133, where his wife explains that Muhammad married her when she was six and consummated the marriage when she was nine .

Saw this online…

1. Calvin thought that the Church had the power of excommunication: “The Church binds him whom she excommunicates, not by plunging him into eternal ruin and despair, but condemning his life and manners, and admonishing him, that, unless he repent, he is condemned.” (Institutes, IV, 11:2)

2. Calvin believed that there was no salvation outside the Church: “Beyond the pale of the Church no forgiveness of sins, no salvation, can be hoped for, . . .” (IV, 1:4)

3. Calvin thought weekly Holy Communion was the minimum frequency: “The sacrament might be celebrated in the most becoming manner, if it were dispensed to the Church very frequently, at least once a-week.” (IV, 17:43)

4. Calvin believed in the primacy of St. Peter, as leader of the apostles: “There is no senate without a consul, no bench of judges without a president or chancellor, no college without a provost, no company without a master. Thus there would be no absurdity were we to confess that the apostles had conferred such a primacy on Peter.” (IV, 6:8)

5. Calvin accepted the primacy of the Roman Church in early Christian history: “I deny not that the early Christians uniformly give high honour to the Roman Church, and speak of it with reverence. . . . [it] adhered more firmly to the doctrine once delivered, . . .” (IV, 6:16)

6. Calvin believed in the indefectibility of the Church: “I always hold that the truth does not perish in the Church . . .” (IV, 9:13)

7. Calvin utterly detested denominations and sectarianism: “Hence the Church is called Catholic or Universal (August. Ep. 48), for two or three cannot be invented without dividing Christ; and this is impossible. All the elect of God are so joined together in Christ, that as they depend on one head, . . .” (IV, 1:2)

8. Calvin thought that sacraments produce real, beneficial effects: “They, by sealing it to us, sustain, nourish, confirm, and increase our faith.” (IV, 14:7) / “That sacred communion of flesh and blood by which Christ transfuses his life into us, just as if it penetrated our bones and marrow, . . .” (IV, 17:10)

9. Calvin taught that there was such a thing as a holy, sacred place: “God . . . descend[s] to us, that he may be near to us, and yet neither change his place nor affect us by earthly means, but rather, . . . raise us aloft to his own heavenly glory, . . .” (IV, 1:5)

10. Calvin believed that human beings could be distributors or mediators of salvation: “In several passages he [St. Paul] . . . attributes to himself the province of bestowing salvation (1 Cor. 3:9).” (IV, 1:6)

11. Calvin seemingly accepted the notion of baptismal regeneration: “. . . forgiveness, which at our first regeneration we receive by baptism alone . . . we are washed from our sins by the blood of Christ.” (IV, 15:4)

12. Calvin approved of bodily mortification as spiritually beneficial: “In like manner, therefore, as persons accused were anciently wont, . . . to humble themselves suppliantly with . . . coarse garments, . . . weeping and fasting, and the like, undoubtedly belong, in an equal degree, to our age, whenever the condition of our affairs so requires.” (IV, 12:17)

13. Calvin believed that there was a profound causal connection between Holy Eucharist and salvation: “Nay, the very flesh in which he resides he makes vivifying to us, that by partaking of it we may feed for immortality. . . . by this food believers are reared to eternal life.” (IV, 17:8) / “. . . the food of eternal life.” (IV, 17:19) / “. . . secures the immortality of our flesh, . . .” (IV, 17:32)

14. Calvin held that contraception was gravely sinful: “It is a horrible thing to pour out seed besides the intercourse of man and woman. Deliberately avoiding the intercourse, so that the seed drops on the ground, is double horrible. For this means that one quenches the hope of his family, and kills the son, which could be expected, before he is born. This wickedness is now as severely as is possible condemned by the Spirit, through Moses, that Onan, as it were, through a violent and untimely birth, tore away the seed of his brother out the womb, and as cruel as shamefully has thrown on the earth. Moreover he thus has, as much as was in his power, tried to destroy a part of the human race. When a woman in some way drives away the seed out the womb, through aids, then this is rightly seen as an unforgivable crime.” (Commentary on Genesis [38:10], translated by John King)

15. Calvin accepted the Catholic and scriptural belief of the perpetual virginity of Mary: “[On Matthew 1:25:] The inference he [Helvidius] drew from it was, that Mary remained a virgin no longer than till her first birth, and that afterwards she had other children by her husband . . . No just and well-grounded inference can be drawn from these words . . . as to what took place after the birth of Christ. He is called ‘first-born’; but it is for the sole purpose of informing us that he was born of a virgin . . . What took place afterwards the historian does not inform us . . . No man will obstinately keep up the argument, except from an extreme fondness for disputation.” (Harmony of Matthew, Mark & Luke, Geneva, 1562, Vol. I, p. 107; from Calvin’s Commentaries, translated by William Pringle, Grand Rapids, Michigan: Eerdmans, 1949)