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Summary<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Lewis recounts another overheard “conversation” between a Ghost and a female Spirit named Hilda. The ghost begins by saying that she would not dream of staying in Heaven if she were expected to meet Robert, her husband and Hilda\u2019s brother. She says that she forgives him <\/span>“as a Christian\u2026but there are some things one can never forget.” <\/span>She even seems puzzled as to how he came to be in Heaven at all.<\/span><\/p>\n She then begins to retell the story of her life with Robert. Her chief complaint was <\/span>“The ingratitude! It was I who made a man of him! Sacrificed my whole life to him! And what was my reward? Absolute, utter selfishness”<\/span>. She explains that he was relatively poor man, completely lacking ambition, and that she was the one <\/span>“who had to drive him every step of the way”<\/span>. She nagged him to take on extra work, which is regarded as nothing in comparison to her own workload, since she <\/span>“I had to keep him going all evening\u2026draw him out of himself and brighten him up and make conversation”<\/span>. He didn\u2019t appreciate her flower arrangements, particularly when she spilled a vase on the manuscript of a book he was writing (something which she <\/span>“cured him of…in the end”<\/span>)<\/span><\/p>\n She complained about Robert\u2019s attempts to <\/span>“just slink off by himself every now and then to see what he called his old friends\u2026 and leave me to amuse myself!”<\/span> Instead, she insisted that the friends come to the house instead. She both subtlety manipulated her husband and made his friends feel uncomfortable, managing to drive them away by the end of their first year of marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n Upon receiving a promotion, Robert hoped for peace, but his wife now wanted to get a bigger house and was irritated that he doesn\u2019t seem thoroughly enthusiastic about the house-hunting process. She convinced him to buy a house they couldn\u2019t really afford, but she was excited that she could now <\/span>“entertain properly”<\/span>. In contrast, she said that Robert <\/span>“…just set himself to get old and silent and grumpy”<\/span>, even though he <\/span>“hadn\u2019t always been like that”<\/span>. Robert would just sit there, hating her and she grew to hate him too. There appears to have been some issue with the <\/span>“younger men who came to the house”<\/span><\/span> who liked her better than her <\/span>“old bear of a husband”<\/span> and<\/span> “used to laugh at him”<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n Towards the end of Robert\u2019s life, she bought a great Dane and forced him to walk it for his health. She kept hosting parties, <\/span>“took him for the most wonderful holidays\u2026[and] saw that he didn\u2019t drink too much”<\/span>. She even allowed him to take up writing again (<\/span>“It couldn\u2019t do any harm by then”<\/span>). But in the end, Robert had a nervous breakdown, but the ghost said her conscience is clear \u2013 she had done her duty.<\/span><\/p>\n Reconsidering, the ghost says that she will, in fact, meet Robert. If Heaven will give her <\/span>“a free hand”<\/span>, she\u2019ll <\/span>“take charge of him again\u2026make something of him\u2026. There\u2019s lots, lots, lots of things I still want to do with him”<\/span>. When Hilda tells her this is not possible, she becomes desperate: <\/span>“Please, please! I\u2019m so miserable. I must have someone to – to do things to\u2026. No one minds about me at all [in Hell]. I can\u2019t alter them”<\/span>. The ghost snaps, saying <\/span>“I hate you. How can I pay him out if you won\u2019t let me have him?”<\/span>. Lewis says that <\/span>“The Ghost which had towered up like a dying candle flame snapped suddenly\u2026 and then there was no Ghost to be seen”<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n Questions<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Q1. How would you describe the ghost? How would you describe the husband?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q2. Why is the ghost reticent about meeting her husband? What does she think about forgiveness?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q3. How did she regard the relationship with her husband? What kind of relationship does Christianity imagine?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q4. What do you think was the ghost\u2019s motivation regarding her husband?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q5. What did she think of his desire to write a book?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q6. Why do you think Robert\u2019s ability to be a good host declined?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Q7. Why does the ghost change her mind about seeing Robert? Under what condition? How does she respond?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Previous Chapter<\/a> | Index<\/a> | Next Chapter<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Summary Lewis recounts another overheard “conversation” between a Ghost and a female Spirit named Hilda. The ghost begins by saying that she would not dream of staying in Heaven if she were expected to meet Robert, her husband and Hilda\u2019s brother. 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