{"id":6675,"date":"2013-08-06T07:00:03","date_gmt":"2013-08-06T14:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/?p=6675"},"modified":"2016-01-31T22:43:35","modified_gmt":"2016-02-01T05:43:35","slug":"dating-that-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/2013\/08\/06\/dating-that-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"Catholic Dating: Not wanting to be “that guy”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"In recent posts\u00a0I’ve been sharing my thoughts about the question often asked by Catholic females,\u00a0“Why doesn’t that nice Catholic boy ask me out?”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

In my last post<\/a> I wrote about how the fear of rejection plays a significant part in the answer to this question. In addition, I suggested that a warped sense of Christian masculinity contributes to the problem and that all this is exacerbated\u00a0by the close communal nature of faith groups.<\/p>\n

Today I’d like to continue looking at this issue and examine briefly another of the reasons why Catholic guys tend not to ask out Catholic girls as often as they perhaps should. In today’s post I would propose that guys sometimes fail to do so because\u00a0they don’t want\u00a0to be that guy<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In each Catholic community I’ve belonged to, there has always been that guy<\/em>. You know who I mean? I’m talking about\u00a0the player<\/em>.\u00a0He’s the guy who’s always scanning the pews at the Young Adult Mass or Bible Study, keeping an eye out for any new arrivals. As soon as a new girl turns up, you can guarantee he’ll be the one jumping in to offer her a warm welcome to the parish…which’ll quite likely involve a dinner and a romantic drive by sunset beach…<\/p>\n

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If you’re a Catholic guy looking for a nice Catholic girl then a Catholic parish is an obvious place to find her. However, there is something a little tacky about going to church on Sunday morning in order to get a date for Saturday night. I would suggest that the\u00a0gregarious actions of those guys who treat their parish like a free version of CatholicMatch.com<\/a> have the negative effect on other Catholic men. The\u00a0guy who is serious about his faith, who goes to Mass because he wants to worship God will often feel uncomfortable about pursuing a girl at church, especially after seeing the local parish’s “player” in action.<\/p>\n

As with my previous post<\/a>, I think that the solution to this issue is fairly straight-forward: be brave. Gentlemen, don’t let the actions of a few creepy guys cause you to embrace lifelong celibacy too quickly! Instead, see it as an opportunity to set a good example for these guys and to demonstrate a better quality of friendship and courtship.<\/p>\n

So what do you think? Agree? Disagree? What can be done here?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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In recent posts\u00a0I’ve been sharing my thoughts about the question often asked by Catholic females,\u00a0“Why doesn’t that nice Catholic boy ask me out?” In my last post I wrote about how the fear of rejection plays a significant part in the answer to this question. In addition, I suggested that a warped sense of Christian masculinity contributes to the problem<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[2324,1816,330,2969,1815],"class_list":["post-6675","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-faith","tag-catholic-dating","tag-creeper","tag-dating","tag-featured","tag-player"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6675","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6675"}],"version-history":[{"count":51,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6675\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":60689,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6675\/revisions\/60689"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6675"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6675"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6675"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}