{"id":25918,"date":"2014-09-18T00:01:47","date_gmt":"2014-09-18T07:01:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/?p=25918"},"modified":"2016-01-27T22:58:23","modified_gmt":"2016-01-28T05:58:23","slug":"why-all-men-should-learn-to-dance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/18\/why-all-men-should-learn-to-dance\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 11 reasons why all men should learn to dance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>All in all, I&#8217;ve taught quite a few dance classes this year. For example, at the beginning\u00a0of the summer, I visited a local school and introduced\u00a0a class of\u00a0Eighth Graders to\u00a0swing dancing and last month I taught\u00a0a group of\u00a0a hundred and fifty teenagers (eesh!) at a youth retreat in Julian.<\/p>\n<p>As a general rule, when I teach dance lessons, the girls are really enthusiastic about learning whereas\u00a0the guys are usually more reluctant. I&#8217;ve noticed that this reaction is not\u00a0limited to teenagers.\u00a0I&#8217;ve seen\u00a0the same thing when I&#8217;ve taught \u00a0&#8220;young adults&#8221; and I&#8217;ve even seen the same reaction among <em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">real<\/span> grown-ups\u00a0<\/em>too! For example, towards the beginning of the\u00a0year I taught\u00a0Nightclub Foxtrot at a local parish event and, when it was\u00a0time for the lesson, all the men were suddenly rather absent&#8230; Where had all the &#8220;leaders&#8221; gone?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"860\" height=\"484\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/g0Z0WaTl9Sw?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>In this post I would like to outline\u00a0the top <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=4xgx4k83zzc\" target=\"_blank\">eleven<\/a>\u00a0reasons as to why every man\u00a0should learn to dance. Anyone who knows me well will know that I think <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">all<\/span><\/strong> guys, without exception, should know how to dance. In Medieval times, a knight&#8217;s training was considered incomplete if he could not dance. It was true then and I think it&#8217;s no less true today&#8230; \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>So, why should all men learn some kind of partner dancing?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #1: You can&#8217;t get out of it\u00a0<\/strong><br \/>\nYou may think that you can get through life without having to dance, but\u00a0I\u00a0can guarantee you that&#8217;s not really possible. You&#8217;re going to have to get out on the dance floor eventually. At some point you&#8217;ll end up getting dragged out to a club by some\u00a0friends. Eventually you will go to a house party. Not only that, throughout your life there will be countless\u00a0weddings to attend. There will be dancing at all these events, so you may as well accept that dancing is inevitable and be prepared so as to bust out\u00a0some sweet moves on the floor \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45946\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Awkward.jpg\" alt=\"Awkward\" width=\"400\" height=\"298\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Awkward.jpg 500w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Awkward-300x223.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #2: Dancing improves coordination<\/strong><br \/>\nMen aren&#8217;t typically light on their feet. However, learning to dance can help\u00a0you improve\u00a0your coordination and the control you have over your own body. For example, did you know that the world-famous martial artist, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=kFw7qON-Vgs\" target=\"_blank\">Bruce Lee<\/a>, was a Cha Cha champion?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45943\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/BruceLee.jpg\" alt=\"BruceLee\" width=\"400\" height=\"496\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/BruceLee.jpg 465w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/BruceLee-241x300.jpg 241w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #3: Dancing together teaches respectful gender interactions<\/strong><br \/>\nThis is the main reason why I think teenagers should learn some form of formal dance. Partner dancing has much to teach us about right\u00a0interactions with members of the opposite sex. It teaches kids that dancing can be <em>fun<\/em> without being <em>sleazy<\/em>. It can\u00a0teach them that it&#8217;s possible to dance with someone without the sole motivation of\u00a0getting\u00a0a girlfriend or to simply find someone to use for the night.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">In\u00a0an introductory lesson, I always make a point of explaining\u00a0to\u00a0the guys <em>how<\/em> to ask a lady to dance. You might think this would\u00a0be\u00a0obvious, but experience has taught me that apparently it isn&#8217;t. I tell the gentlemen to&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">(a) Walk up confidently<br \/>\n(b) Smile<br \/>\n(c) Ask the lady for the next dance<br \/>\n(d) Offer your hand and lead the lady onto the dance floor<br \/>\n(e) Dance!<br \/>\n(f) Thank her for the dance<br \/>\n(g) Escort the lady back off the dance floor<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">Unless I spell this out, the men&#8217;s attempts are, quite frankly, rather pitiful! The last time I was in Seattle, I went salsa dancing with Jessica. We were having a drink at a table by the dance floor, and a guy came up and asked me if he could dance with her. I told him that it was fine with me, but that he ought\u00a0to\u00a0ask her. He laughed and then went to take Jessica&#8217;s hand to lead her onto the dance floor. At this point, I stopped him. That&#8217;s <em>not<\/em> how you ask a lady to dance!\u00a0I made him start again and do it properly \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45948\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Formal-dance-in-the-country.jpg\" alt=\"Formal dance in the country\" width=\"400\" height=\"224\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Formal-dance-in-the-country.jpg 512w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Formal-dance-in-the-country-300x168.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #4: Learning to dance means learning how to lead<\/strong><br \/>\nThis is related to the previous point. As a man, part of learning to dance with a partner requires that you learn how to lead. \u00a0If you&#8217;ve done partner dancing before, you&#8217;ll know that leading is tricky. There is a real and substantial difference between &#8220;leading&#8221; and its common counterfeit, &#8220;domination&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">When one leads, one does it with strength, but also with gentleness. It is done with confidence, but not as subjugation. It requires the man\u00a0to make decisions, to communicate his\u00a0intentions clearly and then to invite the lady to join him. Now ladies, don&#8217;t these\u00a0sound like qualities\u00a0that you&#8217;d like to find in all men?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45949\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Secret-Ingredient-for-Happy-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Secret-Ingredient-for-Happy-Marriage\" width=\"400\" height=\"272\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Secret-Ingredient-for-Happy-Marriage.jpg 900w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Secret-Ingredient-for-Happy-Marriage-300x204.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #5:\u00a0Confidence\u00a0<\/strong><br \/>\nOnce you learn how to lead a lady on the dance floor and feel comfortable within your own skin, moving your body to music, your self-confidence will grow, both on and off the dance floor.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-45952 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/SNF.jpg\" alt=\"SNF\" width=\"400\" height=\"457\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/SNF.jpg 400w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/SNF-262x300.jpg 262w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #6: Dancing will increase your enjoyment of music<\/strong><br \/>\nLearning to dance will help you appreciate the music associated with the dance style which you are learning. For example, my love\u00a0of\u00a0Latin music grew significantly when I started dancing salsa, and the same was true when I started Swing and Ballroom.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Travolta.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-45951\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Travolta.jpg\" alt=\"Travolta\" width=\"400\" height=\"285\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Travolta.jpg 400w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Travolta-300x213.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #7: You learn a lot about a lady\u00a0by the way she\u00a0dances<\/strong><br \/>\nWhen you get pretty comfortable with dancing, you will most likely notice that you start to pick up on your partner&#8217;s cues while on the dance floor. Through this increased sensitivity, you begin to learn something about your partner&#8217;s\u00a0personality simply from the way she dances.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">For example, is she comfortable with being led or does she fight it? Is she relaxed\u00a0around you? Does she trust you? Is she playful or reserved? How does she respond when you make a mistake? After a few dances, you&#8217;ll quickly start to discover the answers to these\u00a0questions.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-45953 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/cf3.jpg\" alt=\"Cuban Fury movie\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/cf3.jpg 400w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/cf3-300x199.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #8: You&#8217;ll become part of a community<\/strong><br \/>\nI&#8217;ve moved around between countries, but everywhere I&#8217;ve visited I&#8217;ve had a ready-made community thanks to dance. In whatever city I&#8217;ve been in, there has always been some kind of dance group, giving me a place to go and have fun, as well as somewhere to make new friends. Although some groups can be rather inward-looking and cliquey, the vast majority\u00a0have been incredibly welcoming.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-45954 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Group.jpg\" alt=\"Group\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Group.jpg 400w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Group-300x199.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #9. It&#8217;s fun!<\/strong><br \/>\nDancing is fun! This reason is hopefully evident from watching other people dance! For example, just try and watch this couple dance and <em>not<\/em> have a smile on your face&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"400\" height=\"225\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/YgkfGKIcQcc?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #10: Improve your fitness<\/strong><br \/>\nDancing is really good cardio exercise and far more fun than getting on a treadmill at the gym!<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">Not only that, your enjoyment (Reason #9) will keep pushing you to continue dancing even when you&#8217;re tired. I can&#8217;t count the number of times I&#8217;ve been out dancing and have been drawn back onto the dance floor by a song I love, thinking to myself\u00a0<span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;Well, maybe just one more dance&#8230;&#8221;<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Staying-Alive-John-Travolta.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-45955 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Staying-Alive-John-Travolta.jpg\" alt=\"Staying-Alive-John-Travolta\" width=\"400\" height=\"257\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Staying-Alive-John-Travolta.jpg 400w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Staying-Alive-John-Travolta-300x192.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong>Reason #11.\u00a0The ladies \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><br \/>\nOkay&#8230;I&#8217;ve saved the most persuasive reason\u00a0until last&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">At the beginning of this post I spoke about the difference in enthusiasm I&#8217;ve seen between guys and girls when starting\u00a0dance lessons. When I teach teenagers, I typically separate the guys and the girls and then speak for a couple of minutes\u00a0before we get going.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">I ask the girls <span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;Who here likes going out dancing?&#8221;<\/em><\/span>. Lots of hands go up. <span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;Excellent!&#8221;<\/em><\/span> I say, <span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;So you&#8217;ve clearly got motivation to learn how to dance!&#8221;<\/em><\/span>. They nod. I then turn to the guys and say <span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;You see all these hands in the air? There are <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">lots<\/span> of reasons why you should learn to dance, but if you have no other reason, allow me to suggest that\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">here<\/span>\u00a0is your motivation!&#8221;<\/em><\/span>. This always\u00a0gets a laugh and lots of giggling.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">I said in\u00a0Reason #1\u00a0that you will be at lots of events in your life where there will be dancing. \u00a0It is a simple truth that ladies typically love to dance. Therefore, if you would like to meet and impress ladies at these different events, then being able to dance is a must.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">What if you already have a special lady in your life? I&#8217;m afraid to say that I have been to countless weddings where the boyfriends and husbands have been\u00a0huddled around a table while\u00a0all the wives and girlfriends have been\u00a0out on the floor, dancing with <em>other\u00a0guys who have been\u00a0brave enough to get out\u00a0there<\/em>. Do you really want some other guy dancing with your wife or girlfriend? Wouldn&#8217;t she far prefer to dance with <em>you<\/em>? I have taught quite a few married couples to dance, and my favourite point\u00a0in the process is where the\u00a0wife starts to beam with happiness as she feels her husband begin to lead her with confidence. It&#8217;s really adorable.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">Finally, I\u00a0should probably also point out that\u00a0when I&#8217;ve gone out dancing, there is almost always a shortage of guys. This means that the gentlemen\u00a0become a precious commodity! Even if the guys aren&#8217;t very talented, there is still <em>a line of girls wanting to be asked to dance<\/em>!<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">So c&#8217;mon guys, this isn&#8217;t a hard decision&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-44300 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Much-Ado-About-Dancing.png\" alt=\"Much Ado About Dancing\" width=\"600\" height=\"284\" srcset=\"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Much-Ado-About-Dancing.png 1024w, https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/Much-Ado-About-Dancing-300x142.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All in all, I&#8217;ve taught quite a few dance classes this year. For example, at the beginning\u00a0of the summer, I visited a local school and introduced\u00a0a class of\u00a0Eighth Graders to\u00a0swing dancing and last month I taught\u00a0a group of\u00a0a hundred and fifty teenagers (eesh!) at a youth retreat in Julian. As a general rule, when I teach dance lessons, the girls<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":53371,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[48,708,330,2969,90,2817,437],"class_list":["post-25918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-faith","tag-dance","tag-dancing","tag-dating","tag-featured","tag-leadership","tag-salsa","tag-swing"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/FeaturedDance.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25918","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25918"}],"version-history":[{"count":37,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25918\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":60650,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25918\/revisions\/60650"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/53371"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25918"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25918"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25918"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}