{"id":11791,"date":"2012-06-07T15:35:51","date_gmt":"2012-06-07T22:35:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/?p=11791"},"modified":"2019-01-18T12:59:07","modified_gmt":"2019-01-18T19:59:07","slug":"the-reality-of-porn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/2012\/06\/07\/the-reality-of-porn\/","title":{"rendered":"TOT: The Reality of Porn"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-11803\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/porn.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"220\" height=\"78\" \/>Last week we had the final session of our <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Theology_on_Tap\">Theology On Tap<\/a>\u00a0series here in San Diego.\u00a0I had not encountered Theology on Tap (ToT) until I came to America so, in case you have not been exposed to it, it&#8217;s an outreach and catechesis initiative embraced by many Catholic dioceses as part of their Young Adult ministry.<\/p>\n<p>Typically what happens at ToT is that the Catholic Young Adults from a diocese take over a bar or restaurant. They eat some food, drink a beer and then listen to a talk given by a speaker. The idea behind ToT is to give young Catholics an opportunity to hang out together (or if you want to be super-spiritual about it, <em>&#8220;fellowship&#8221;<\/em>) and learn about the faith in a relaxed, informal setting.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left\"><a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/matt_fradd.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-11792\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/matt_fradd.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"128\" height=\"153\" \/><\/a>The talk was entitled: <span style=\"color: #000000\"><em>&#8220;The Reality Behind the Fantasy of Porn : An interview with an ex-porn star who shares her story&#8221;<\/em><\/span>. The chap conducting the interview was <a href=\"http:\/\/mattfradd.com\/\">Matt Fradd<\/a>, a recent addition to the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.catholic.com\/profiles\/matthew-fradd\">Catholic Answers<\/a> team. He&#8217;s been involved in the area of <a href=\"http:\/\/chastity.com\/node\/493\">chastity<\/a> for some time and, in particular, helping men and women\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.theporneffect.com\/\">recover from\u00a0pornography<\/a>. Recently I went to the <a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/tag\/matt-fradd\/\">recording<\/a> of his new DVD, <a href=\"http:\/\/shop.catholic.com\/product.php?productid=17197\">The Man Talk<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>During this final session of ToT, Matt interviewed his friend April, who was in the porn industry for some time, but who now works to help those who wish to get out of that life.<\/p>\n<p>The <a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/porn_statistics.png\">porn industry<\/a> is massive and, as the title of the talk suggests, the purpose of the interview is to show the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">reality<\/span>\u00a0of porn, rather than the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">fantasy<\/span>\u00a0which is so often sold to us. As Matt says in his talk <a href=\"http:\/\/shop.catholic.com\/product.php?productid=17139\">Taking Down Goliath<\/a>, the problem with porn is not that it shows <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">too much<\/span>, but that it shows <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">too little<\/span>, reducing a woman to a collection of <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">body parts<\/span> to be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">lusted<\/span> after, rather than a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">person<\/span> to be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">loved<\/span>.<\/p>\n<p>Main Talk (<a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MainTalk.mp3\" target=\"_blank\">Download<\/a>)<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-11791-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MainTalk.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MainTalk.mp3\">http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MainTalk.mp3<\/a><\/audio>\n<p>Q&amp;A (<a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/QuestionsAndAnswers.mp3\" target=\"_blank\">Download<\/a>)<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-11791-2\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/QuestionsAndAnswers.mp3?_=2\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/QuestionsAndAnswers.mp3\">http:\/\/restlesspilgrim.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/QuestionsAndAnswers.mp3<\/a><\/audio>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"color: #888888\"><em>(The intro\/outro music is Public Domain and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.partnersinrhyme.com\/blog\/4-public-domain-gregorian-chants-for-download\/\"><span style=\"color: #888888\">available here<\/span><\/a>)<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left\"><strong>UPDATE:<\/strong> During the talk Matt mentions an interview he did with a girl who had recently become a stripper. The interview is available <a href=\"http:\/\/mattfradd.com\/2012\/06\/22\/the-following-i\/\">here<\/a> on his <a href=\"http:\/\/mattfradd.com\">blog<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last week we had the final session of our Theology On Tap\u00a0series here in San Diego.\u00a0I had not encountered Theology on Tap (ToT) until I came to America so, in case you have not been exposed to it, it&#8217;s an outreach and catechesis initiative embraced by many Catholic dioceses as part of their Young Adult ministry. 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